OPINION || Stand up against Domestic Voilence06 Jul 2017
Here is an opinion on the rising rate of domestic violence, by Joy Oluchi Ugwueke, who has opted to speak as a model for other women, ladies and girls who are steadily loosing their place in the society to domestic and society violence.
Joy who is an actor in the Nigerian Nollywood movie Industry from a lovely family of Mr./Mrs. Ugwueke, with five girls and a boy. That makes it six and she happens to be second on the queue of children.
There are women who stay in abusive relationships but don’t realize it until they fall victim to acute domestic violence by their partners. If you love me, and am suppose to be your support partner. Not a punch bag.
Abuse doesn’t get better if you don’t do anything; it just keeps getting worse. You have to be your own friend.
You have to have compassion for yourself. Don’t punish yourself. Once the “sorrys” don’t mean anything more than just as a way of keeping you right where he/she wants you, then its time to leave.
There are women who stay in abusive relationships but don’t realize it until they fall victim to acute domestic violence by their partners.
If you’re trying to decide whether to stay or leave, you may be feeling confused, uncertain, frightened, and torn.
Marriage is for better for worse, but when the worst threatens your life, then i think you have a choice to live.
One moment, you may desperately want to get away, and the next, you may want to hang on to the relationship. Maybe you may want to put the blame on yourself for the abuse, or feel weak and embarrassed because you’ve stuck around in spite of it.
Don’t be trapped by confusion, guilt, or self-blame. The only thing that matters is your safety. I know most relationships stay together after a violent episode but from what I've seen the relationships becomes even more destructive.
Marriage is for better for worst, but when the worst threatens your life, then i think you have a choice to live.
I call on all well meaning leaders, government agencies, my colleagues in the industry, NGOs, international community and the society at large to lend your voice to this issue as you can join various sections to canvass and berate this growing ill turning into a societal norm.
It's not difficult to believe, but if you believe and don't act, it's difficult to expect a miracle. I hope you remember these words and join me as we #StandUp4Woman.